Ephesians 6:2-3 - "Honor your father and mother"--which is the first commandment with a promise--"that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth."
Many of us have had difficult relationships with our parents. In my own life, I had to come to grips with a strained relationship with my biological father. I was once bitter and unforgiving. Matthew 18:23-35 says that you stop the flow of God’s forgiveness in your own life when you do not forgive. Wanting to curse another you end up cursing yourself! I wrote a letter to my father telling him, “I release you and I love you because you are my Father (not that he was deserving – recognizing I am not deserving either – I have a love to give that’s not mine and doesn’t come from me!) Thank you for working hard, thank you for making the effort to see us, thank you for serving our country, thank you for raising another set of kids from your second wife.” This was hard, but it was freeing. I wrote the letter before God and for my own heart and was not led to send it. Wouldn’t you know it, out of the blue my dad called: “Son, I started going to church. I trusted Christ as my savior and I would like to talk to you monthly if you are ok with that. I would like to see the grandkids.” Something significant has to happen emotionally, intellectually and spiritually. You have to do something forgive, or it will continue to do things to you that will affect the legacy you leave